Book Discussion Questions for Moments In Time with 16 Men

  1. How would you describe “Moments in Time with 16 Men” to someone?

  2. What aspects of Jennifer’s personality are the most relatable to you? Which aren’t?

  3. Which man or men in the book did you prefer the most and why? Which did you not prefer and why?

  4. Have you known anyone who was abused by a parent? Spouse? Boyfriend? Clergy? Could you see the signs? If not, were you later told about it? How did you respond?

  5. Have you experienced any changes in how dating, relationships and sex have changed in the last five to ten years? Have you found any observed changes to be better, worse, or not relevant?

  6. One of the central themes is sexual abuse, but the book is also about trauma. How does Jennifer cope with trauma? With rage and anger? What are some of the positive ways? The destructive ways?

  7. What do you value and appreciate about yourself? What does it take to start/ or maintain a healthy relationship with yourself? Your family? Your spouse? Your co-workers? What healthy relationships did Jennifer have?

  8. Which of the men that Jennifer had non-romantic/sexual relationships with do you think was the most beneficial/important/healing for her? Have you ever had a relationship with someone of your preferred gender that was entirely non-romantic/sexual that made a major impact on your life?

  9. Who do you feel in your immediate circle has a strong respectful relationship with his/her significant other? Your parents? Grandparents? Boyfriends? Girlfriends? Expand this idea to include people in novels, movies, TV, world history. What attracts you to them? What values do they possess? Do you have or would like to have some of these qualities in your own life?

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Book Discussion Questions for The Bow Tie

1.     How did you feel when Jennifer discovered the truth about her father?

2.     Would you tell your mother that your father or some other male raped you?

3.     Do you think you could forgive a person who hurt you?

4.     Why do people feel that males are more powerful?

5.     Is there female power? If so, describe what “female power” is. If not, why do you think there isn’t female power?

6.     What if the person who hurt you asked for forgiveness?

7.     What does being a friend mean? What does a friend think and say and do?

8.     How do Jennifer’s friends help her?

9.     If someone close to you told you they were an incest survivor, how would you respond?

10.  What resources are available today that were not available to Jennifer? How would her healing process be different now as opposed to thirty years ago?